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I walk on a road lush with dreams,
a road of forgotten and veiled dreams,
sometimes slowly, sometimes gaily,
sometimes lost, sometimes profound,
I walk a road of unknown mysteries,
fervently finding my way through the endless path.....

Friday, June 1, 2012

uff ye shaadi ;(

In our country, as soon as a girl bids farewell to her teenage she inadvertently welcomes a huge trouble for herself. A problem that will change her life for the better, no bitter.OK! I am not very sure for what!

Yes, you prompted it correct in your mind ( so no prizes for guessing) - She has unwilling/unfortunately/unconsciously been transformed into a 'potential marriage material'.
From distant relatives to D-block wali Dadi (assuming you reside in say,Z-block) every one's prime concern seems to be your doli ka uthna or mandap ka sajna!

And its your own 'mother' who has been constructing the tallest dreams. Taller than Burj Khalifa in Dubai!
But the trouble arises when she starts realizing that her dreams so tall, are made of trump cards ready to not just be blown but put on fire by her very own 'aaj kal ke zamaane ki beti'.

She can apply nail polish with newton's accuracy at mechanics but breaking an egg gives her jitters.
Her mascara never dares to smudge off but her cupboard is a mess. The skirts shiver to touch her knees and cell-phone is her soul-mate. She has neither seen the face of the kitchen nor the morning sun!


But mom ain't any gullible creature so that's when she decides to grab her most tried and tested tool. NO! its not the chimta (tongs) or karchul( ladle) anymore. C'mon they are so passe ( I doubt if they even exist in kitchen now a days). Its the 'verbal bullets' humbly known as 'taane'.

"sasurral mein jaake mobile hi chalana"
"saas aag laga degi inn skirts ko"
'tumhari shakal dekh kar pati ka peit nahi bhar jaega"  
ye make-up thop lene se zindagi nahi kat ti"

 Now, excuse me for the lack of space (and what fun in repeating things which you yourself hear almost everyday ;) )

So what I wonder is how can our beloved mothers predict such a grievous future of ours?
And Since they have already forecasted it how do they expect us to become a perfect 'marriage material' after listening to such horrifying stories?
Had they narrated us the 'Cindrella and snow white' tales they did when we are kids we might as well have tried to co-operate in their scheme of plans. Don't they remember how eagerly we wanted to get married then?
But the situation seems more 'real' now. And I ought to be petrified!
So your Burj Dubai dreams need to be seriously tackled mom. Where is the matchbox I ask?! 

21 comments:

  1. interesting..and very nice post..i read a very good article some years back about how we as a indian society need to give space to young adults who are earning and who need to enjoy their singlehood before settling down1!!

    http://sushmita-smile.blogspot.in/

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    1. yes, Its high time that people specially in India should realize it! glad u liked the post :D

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  2. Funny and well-written :) Though I wouldn't agree that most girls nowadays are obsessed with dressing and make-up. I think today's generation is ambitious and couldn't care less about their Moms' early-marriage plans precisely because of their dreams to make it big in the world!

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    1. Yes i agree to it. but whateve be the case, girls today arent that kitchen friendly like they use to be

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  3. hahaa...very well penned...and my best wishes for ur furture life to be BETTER....insha-allah.

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    1. thnk u so much for ur wishes..i hope d same :)

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  4. very well written boy...i liked it..so are your folks planning to get you married ;)

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    1. boy :O no, they arnt planinng fo marriage, abhi to they think there daughter wont be able to do anything and izzat khrab karwa degi unki :P

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  5. recent comments about marriage material puts an entirely new spin to your post. very well written. the need to become a home maker is something that cannot be thrust on you by anyone. some people dont feel it till later in life. some people dont feel it till it is too late. and some people dont feel it.

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    1. Yes, i agree to what u said. But more than being a home maker, its knowing the basic home tasks to have a happy and easy life :)

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  6. Not only girls, boys are too dragged into this issue of *getting settled*.
    Every time my bua comes to visit us, she makes sure that she pinch me with her punchline "ab toh bas teri he shaadi hai ghar mein". Sigh.

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    1. u should be happy then, atleast u dont have to leave ur house and go to an unknown place only to work for them :/ guys r lucky that ways!

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  7. Ha, ha,,..But whatever moms may say they have their daughters best interest at heart...also a lurking fear that their doll should not face any problems later on....

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    1. yes no doubt abt that. All that mom says and does is purely for the benefit of their daughters :)

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  8. I guess things are changing atleast in the metros.. but yup, the extent of change is terribly slow.. but there are a handful of parents who let their daughters do the decision making..

    who knows, one day daughters can decide when they want to get married and by their terms :)

    Nice post subtlescribbler :)

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    1. Yes, things have changed but still no so much to actually make a difference to a girl's 'destined' life. Even if parents are supportive, they cant let their daughters free becoz ultimately its her in-laws and husband who rules.
      glad u liked it :)

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  9. the everyday story of a young woman !! i like the way you wrote it! connects to every other indian girl who is being haunted by the marriage talks lol

    http://shonazee.blogspot.in/

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    1. I knw, girls and marriage talks are like two sides of the same coin. happy u liked it :D

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  10. The post is funny but the issues are very vast.... I don't know how it all is, but as far it seems that world is quite unknown to me, if sometime I come face to face to that kinda situation which I think someday I will.....I'll get suffocated and choked... A girl should be given her freedom, her choice should be respected (for marriage or no marriage at all :P). Its not supposed to be a change but an attitude which is quite deep rooted. Nice post :)
    Cheers,

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  11. Great work! very humorously you have portrayed an inevitable truth of the Indian household! heaven help us women from the taane!!

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