I walk on a road lush with dreams,
a road of forgotten and veiled dreams,
sometimes slowly, sometimes gaily,
sometimes lost, sometimes profound,
I walk a road of unknown mysteries,
fervently finding my way through the endless path.....

Wednesday, September 7, 2016

Self proclaimed Messiahs, A letter for you!

Dear trumpet blowers of liberation,

Please ignore us. The wails against veil, laments for liberation, fetishism with feminism and jeremiads of moral judgements. It's high time you realised, none of it, is any of your business.

Have all global issues ceased to exist? Poverty, health problems, financial crisis, Global warming and climatic changes. Why are they not pertinent enough for your attention?

Why this obsession with oppression? 
What makes you feel we are in need of your salvation? 
Necessitating a protection which holds and passes all judgements on the presence or lack of a piece of cloth.

Some monsters in India decide to rape one of us and every argument boils down to what the victim wore. (Much respect to Khap Panchayat by the way, they at least blamed chowmein and fast foods for such crimes)

A country like Saudi Arabia obligates Hijab on all it's females as a means of 'protection'.

France decides to leap ahead in this 'race of protection and freedom' and banned Burkini recently. The Mayor justifying it as a 'measure to ensure protection from terrorist attacks and ensure hygiene on the beaches'. 

And yesterday, ISIS decided to ban burqa. Islamic state deems Hijab as a security problem in Iraq. Read Here

How very supreme of you all! 
All problems and solutions are, according to you, concealed in this little cloth piece. A mighty magical wand? 

Lecherous men, increasing crime rates, lack of education, intolerance, are obviously by-products of the menace caused by women and their illustrious 'clothes'. Isn't it? 

If only your reason gifted mind could 'discriminate' let alone identify us beyond our outward appearances.

We are bone and flesh too. I understand, it's hard to digest that a clan you glorified as 'distressed damsels' since time immemorial can be anyone more except a dumb-mute puppet of your propagandas but frankly my dear morons, we too are in possession of a sensible mind. 

Do us a favour, will you? Shun your illusions and idee fixe and make peace with the above stated fact. 
For once, let us just take our own decisions and decide what we want to wear. How we want to conduct ourselves. Our choices.
Burkini or swimsuit. Hijab or hair. Skirt or sweatshirt is for my body and that needs neither your safeguarding nor concerns. It was/is/will be never your property. No matter if it's France or Iran.

Stop hiding your libido behind pseudo-intellectual concerns of liberation. We have known you long enough and know this, we loath such care more than your carnality.

If only you would have burdened your soul with a little self control, banning or baring would have been less fascinating to you.

And did I hear you say, 'but we intend no harm?' If you can't support your daughter's decision to study further. Your sister's male friends. Your wife's difference of opinions and your working mothers, then better shut up your false cries of freedom, protection or liberation. 

The very sight of you now seems destructive to our independence.
Your mighty egos have suffocated our bosoms and souls long enough. As if patriarchy was not enough already.  Please spare us the horror of sabotaging our basic rights of freedom.

If the popular belief that you are inhabitants of Mars and we are from Venus is true, then how desperately I desire that now has the time come, we go our separate ways. Life on Earth is more about morality rather than humanity, all thanks to you! 

That would be freedom. Liberation. Honour. Justice. Redemption.

confined by your existence
We, Women.

Sunday, August 14, 2016

Story of a suicide- behind and beyond

Ending your own life. Have you ever contemplated upon it? 
Envisaged ways to achieve it? 
Engulfed in a despair so cluttered that the idea of death lured you more than the reality of life? 

Stats reveal that every 40 seconds, one person commits suicide globally (WHO-2012 report). What's worse is, India has been accounted for highest estimated number of suicides according to the same report.

The issue isn't why, but 'what' is so tempting in the entire situation that drags a victim to a path of no return.
Impulsiveness and fear might be a reason. Depression isn't ( studies reveal that less than 10% of those suffering from depression choose to end life).

I strongly feel that the portrayal of suicide by various forms of media has been playing a very important yet negative role.
We must realise that 'awareness' isn't always good. More so, if it comes across as an easy choice.
Media has been showcasing suicide simply as an action, a glorified one sometimes. But what about the consequences? The before and the after of this journey to a never land.

Every suicide has a story, behind and beyond. It is this 'story of a suicide' which needs to shared, analysed and most importantly understood to envision the complete picture.

I happen to read one such story of suicide few days ago. 

'The story of a suicide' is a brainchild of Nalandaway founder Sriram Ayer. 

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Genre : Contemporary fiction

Book format : E-Book consisting of 31 chapters.
What's interesting here is that the book is a visually rich amalgamation of audio, video, illustrations and how do I's. 

Where to read : You can read the book on author's blog at (It is present in 'all-device' friendly kind of format). The navigation tools are also pretty neat. Plus it is free for all. 

What is it about : Set mostly in a college campus, the story revolves around Mani, Hari, Sam and Charu.
They are not only college mates but their lives are linked to each other in many other ways too.
The story progress to unfold poignant issues dealt by today's youth. 
Through the lives of these four characters, Ayer has divulged through matters of Child abuse, Homosexuality, Rape, Cyber bullying and suicide. 

The characters have been sketched in a way that a readers will not face any hurdle in identifying themselves or those in the vicinity with them. 
Entrapped in emotions of love, rage, fear, jealousy and confusion, they are as real as you and me. 

Storyline: The story begins with a chapter named 'I give up'. It's a letter addressed to the world by someone who has made up his mind to end his life.
Subsequent chapters dive in the story further and as the plot thickens, the reader finds himself entwined in a tale which explores the dilemmas faced by youth of today.

Narration: Being a contemporary fiction, book is narrated in a language easy to grasp. 
Sometimes, I did feel the narration could have been more crisp. Also, there was an explicit description of sexual encounters but a similar description was lacking in terms of emotions and sensitivity. 
I failed to feel what the character felt in many a places because of a somewhat superficial narrative. 

Things worthy of mention: The part in which Charu plays the role of 'Draupadi' and her dialogue with Caesar was quite captivating and a novel idea.
Also, Charu's Facebook post addressed to 'Dear Penises' was a challenging but applaudable effort by the writer. 
Other special features of the book :

1) The curtain raiser video directed by Surya Balakrishnan. This one gave me goosebumps. 

2) Illustrations by Ghana. All through the book, one finds these richly coloured drawings which play a great role in enhancing the reading experience. Some of them are so vivid that I couldn't help but ponder over them for a length of time. 

3) How do I's by Mansi S. Mehta. 
A very special feature of the book. As mentioned earlier, that the book expands over 31 different chapters. 
At the end of every chapter, they present you with a set of 'How do I''. Which is basically a 'book within a book' sort of a creation. 
It is self-help guide to enlighten the reader with ways to deal with situations as and when they arise in the form of fiction throughout the book. 
So basically, as I read the book and was confronted upon a situation which a character was under-going and wondered, 'yes, I identify myself with him/her but how to cope up with it?'. 
A set of 'how do I's' immediately came to my rescue.

On coping up with suicidal thoughts:

I have had a chance to work with patients suffering from psychiatric ailments during my internship days. 
There were patients who had attempted suicide multiple times and then there were others who had been on a verge of doing it after a long battle fighting this dilemma.
Most of them had a story to tell. 
When we tried to connect to them ,I realized that such tendencies were somehow linked to 'fear'.
Fear of the unknown. Such overwhelming fear that it blurred all thoughts, every desire to foresee any future, good or bad.

If at all, the victims could find an outlet to vent out their fear, I believe they can undo this impulsive desire to end their life.

That is why 'talking about it' plays a major role.

Everyone must realize that like all thoughts, wanting to end one's life is a thought too. And like all others, it comes and goes.
So let it pass.

To understand and identify with an issue as sensitive as suicide, two things should be kept in mind. They ironically are contrasting to each other.

one, stop 'glamourizing' it. By this I mean, do not understand suicide to be like how they show it in movies or soaps. It isn't that.

two, stop 'loathing/criminalizing' it. This simply means that don't judge the victims or survivors of suicide. Don't call them as criminals or think that they are any different from you and me or any member of our family. They are not.

Although I couldn't identify much with the characters of the book, I did manage to find a reflection of me and those around me in this book as a whole and that is what makes the book so gripping. 

Most of all, as mentioned earlier, this book IS actually the need of the hour. 

We need to hear more such 'stories of suicide' and not merely the 'inconspicuous news'.
We need to talk over and about it. Discuss it. Help and ask for help. Reach out, within and without.

I have always believed in the words of Plato who said 'be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a harder battle'. 

It's time now to do that. 

Ending on this little rhyme by Dorothy Parker: 
Razors pain you,
Rivers are damp,
Acids stain you,
And drugs cause cramp.
Guns aren't lawful,
Nooses give,
Gas smells awful.
You might as well live.

Sunday, July 17, 2016

Band Baaja Beauty! My Envy Box- July'2016 Review

Wouldn't it be great to see a box full of specially curated, fabulous beauty products knock your doorstep every month? 

It might sound unreal to some but My Envy Box is designed to give you just the same. 

It is your portion of luxury sized and latest beauty samples in a beautiful and elegant box, reaching you every single month!

This month's box (July'2016) has been curated by Wed Me Good and happens to be a monsoon wedding special kinda edition. It has been rightly named a 'Band Baaja Beauty' box! 

Before proceeding to the contents of the box, let's have a first look (I know, you are as excited as I am!) 

      First look- Wedding special Box

I was totally mesmerised by the vibrant pinkish hue and golden detailing. 

Now, was the time to open the magical box. 
So here we go . . .

              On opening the box

On opening, I saw these 3 cards first

The first one called as 'Band Baja Beauty wedding check list' mentions the contents of the box and how can we put them into use. 
It also mentions the full size as well as Envy Sample and price of a full size product. 

         Card with wedding checklist

This gives you a fair idea of not just the products you receive every month but also their prices. 

The second card mentions the ongoing 'I love my Envy box contest' wherein you need to take a selfie with your Envy Box and post it on facebook and Instagram tagging your friends to win some exciting goodies! Sounds fun, right? 
And on the other side of the same is a discount offer their Olivia Dar Edition. 

The third card is actually a 'tippy tippy tap' game we used to play as kids. Remember? 
This one is to help you plan you wedding day with a help of Wed Me Good and their app. It also provides you  a few tips regarding wedding preperations while you play this nostalgic game. 

   Tippy tap helps you plan your D-Day

After reading and enjoying the game for a while, I moved ahead to check out the beauty products offered by this month's box.


                   SkinYoga Foot scrub

What is it? 

A beautifully yellowish tinted powdered foot soak, it is aimed to relieve you of aching and burning feet. 
This foot soak helps to de-tan and de-stress feet and muscles and also help clean. 
To my delight, the product is fragrance, preservatives and paraben-free. 

Why in this box? 

Since this is a wedding edition, a foot care product is obviously indispensable.
Hours of shopping, sitting, walking for that perfect trousseau and dress trials. Also, long sangeet and pre-wedding party nights make your feet the most vulnerable yet neglected part indeed. 


Size: 100g
Price: Rs. 695 for 100g

This full size sample will easily last me for as many as 8-10 soaks.

My verdict?

Loved it totally. A must have in every bride's de-stressing box. 


          Kerastase Fragrant Hair oil

What is it? 

A gorgeously scented hair perfume with a combination of fragrances of Tea Rose, Light Woods and Musk. It is alcohol free and claims to make your luscious locks not just smell amazing but also shiny and smooth. 

Why in this box? 

All eyes are on the bride on her D-Day. Which means she needs to take care of her skin and manes well in advance. 
A few drops of this soothing oil will nourish the strands and give them a good shine. 
Even after the wedding, this fragrant oil will help keep the monsoon's unpleasant smells at bay, thanks to this product. 


Size: 3ml
Price: Rs. 5,600 for 120ml

This vial is good for 3-5 uses. 

My Verdict? 

Well, to be honest I had never thought of the importance of a fragrant oil but using too many styling products at ones leaves my hair not just dull and dry looking but also an amalgamation of too many unpleasant smells. 
This one is a definite product to have in your box. 


                 Kama Face Scrub

What is it? 

A face scrub which is formulated with as many as 12 precious ingredients like saffron, almond, lotus, Goat's milk, Glycerin etc. 
It claims to smoothen fine lines, even out skin tone and give a lovely bridal glow to your skin. 

Why in this box? 

A glowing skin is every bride's ultimate desire and she spends endless days, nights and money to achieve that prior to her wedding day. 
A blend of all natural ingredients, this scrub will help you achieve all of that and in a skin friendly way. 


Price: Rs.995 for 50g

This tube would last for about 4-5 uses. 

My verdict?

The best part about this scrub is, its Ayurvedic with no harsh chemicals in it. 
Most of us these days are extremely cautious about our skin specially the face products one uses and so an all natural product is definitely a welcome breeze. 

However, I would have loved to receive a bigger sample of this one. 


                Kama Hand Cream

what is it?

It is an enriching hand cream made with organic cold pressed sweet almond oil, coconut oil, cocoa butter, Aloe Vera etc.
This hand cream is aimed to reduce dryness and also nourish, soften your hands. 

Why in this box? 

Well manicured hands are a bride's delight and onlookers too.
This cream with all natural ingredients will give you lovely and soft hands so that your rings and mehendi looks even prettier. 


Size: 5g
Price: Rs.645 for 60g

This tube will last for 4-5 uses. 

My verdict?

The cream smell great and is extremely nourishing too. 
It does not sticks to your hands after applying and yet retains the desired moisture. 

I wished the quality would have been a bit more but never mind!


     Glow Gulnare Shimmering Dry Oil

What is it? 

This is a light-weight, amazingly scented and subtly shimmery body oil to give you a sun-kissed bronzed look. 
It is a dry oil which means it will not leave an oily feel on your skin yet moisturise, scent and bronze it evenly and beautifully. 

Why in this box? 

To add perks to your nicely toned, freshly waxed and glowing skin making it irresistible to touch;)
A sun-kissed bronzed glow is something which so many of us aspire to get and is made so simple and easy with this absolutely awesome shimmering dry oil. 


Size: 60ml
Price: Rs. 1,250 for 60ml

This full size sample will be sufficient for around 10-15 uses. 

My verdict?

My favourite product in this month's box!  This has got a very subtle shimmer and fragrance and lives upto its claim of giving a envy worthy bronzed glow.

And now, last but not the least

Why I think you should subscribe for this amazing beauty box...

- Every Women deserves her monthly iota of beauty and love. My Envy Box will shower you with it month after month with new products making you feel special and beautiful that you are, inside and out! 

- Its a steal deal! Why? Because a monthly subscription which costs about Rs. 850 is worthy of almost double the amount every month with many deluxe sized and full sized samples.

- The box is designed to give you a wide range of beauty products and samples ranging from hair care, skin, perfumes, make up and much more. 
Which means literally having a whole beauty world on your palette err box :P

- It keeps you updated of the latest products in the market. Things which you may have missed and brands which might cater your needs and desires. 

- My Envy Box is itself a lovely designed box in vibrant colours and motifs which is a great item worthy of re-use to keep your jewellery, nitty-gritty. A pure delight for collectors! 

At last, I believe that the money spend on grooming ourselves and maintaining the lovely you is worth every penny.  

And this envy-worthy box is a best step towards a confident, radiant you each month. 

To subscribe, gift or simply have a look, check out 

Any other queries? Let me know in the comments! 

Be gorgeous. Be you.