ONE love..ONE time?? NAAH!!

LOVE - something that has been riveting man's attention since eternity , what exactly does it mean?
The dictionary defines love as...Wait! Is it ever possible to have an all-satisfactory and absolute definition of love? NO!


Then how can we confine an emotion so prodigious to a mere one-time happening? And if you believe that 'true love' is not just a 'mere' one time happening but a long lasting, one-time bond let me clarify my point further.


Suppose I give you a huge cake, so big that you cannot estimate it in numerals ( Love).

Now, I cut an ample portion of it for the first time (maybe your first love) and let you relish it. After a while (since I am being too generous today) I treat you with another portion of it, this time a very very large one. Then, when are done with gaily/greedily gobbling it up, I let you have a third piece( something which you call as infatuation or unreal love) a little smaller than the second one though. 

now, does this mean that there is no cake left now? or can you debate over the fact that whatever I gave you on the first and third instance was not a cake (love) or real cake (true love) ?

Having explained why there is nothing called as ture love, my second point is 'how do one conclude that true love happens only once' ? I hope you won't deny the fact that its with some wisdom and in-numerous experience that we eventually convince ourselves  on the 'reality of real one-time love'. right?

but again the point remains unaltered...how can an emotion so tremendous be defined on the parameters like 'true' or 'fake' or 'real' or 'not-so-real'? It can be shallow or short lived, momentous or forlorn , deep or divine, infatuation or crush but it has to EXIST in all such incidences and experiences of yours. then how come 'just one love in a l-o-n-g life'?


The truth is that " love is too large and equally deep to be understood or measured in a limited frame of mind or a jaundiced eye which categorizes it in any form" .

Now coming to the 'science of love'. We have an emotional center called the limbic center in the brain. A small almond shaped part called amygdala of this limbic system is responsible for releasing hormones(mainly sex hormones) and is the REAL CUPID if I may (Scientifically) call it. 

The only disparity lies in the fact that its been scientifically proven that these hormones release and resort a numerous time in every humans life.  So something which people believe as 'love' is basically a gush of these hormones. In case of  love (the one which people believe to be true) maybe it causes greater and more forceful gush of the same hormones. But this high sexocorticoid release HAS TO subside after a while

because our body's metabolism CANNOT cope up with such high hormonal activity 24x7x n years! Its just not possible!

We need to understand that the 'feeling of love maybe unbounded, but our capacity to love is limited'. - M .scott peck
Having said my mind I would end this discussion with an Urdu couplet ( written by me)

na mehdood kar mohabbat ko sach-jhooth ke paimaane mein

ye to hawa hai, har simt parwaaz karti hai

( don't confine/restrict love on the basis of truth or lie

its omnipresent like the flowing/flying winds )




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